Mindset: Releasing What Does Not Fit

Learning to listen with the heart.

Do you ever find yourself tolerating someone’s behavior even though it makes you uncomfortable?

I’m sure you have! Did you know you have the right to react to that behavior?

You have two options.

Option number one. One, you could ignore this behavior and act as if it didn’t happen.

I used to just stuff it down as if it didn’t affect me or ignore it. I have come to learn that I must say something.

Something direct and honest. By speaking up I am embracing the fact that I have boundaries and that type of behavior doesn’t serve a purpose in my lifestyle or mindset of being positive and coming from a place of love.

Or number two. React with anger or be confrontational. But ask yourself, does this solve anything. Nope. As a matter of fact, it only makes things worse.

I embrace honesty. Honesty that best serves the purpose of my life.

If something or someone makes me feel uncomfortable, I evaluate whether this behavior is a one-time thing or if I have seen this behavior quite often. If this person shows this quite often it is time to make choices.

The choice of what belongs or what needs to go…

Are you in this place?

I am Linda J Wolff, life coach and author of Ethereal Glow

Mindset: Availability and Emotional Present

I appreciate the person who can not be present and they are honest about it.

I started dating a man, and four weeks into seeing one another, he began to pull away.

Our first date was surreal, I had not met someone where conversation flowed like a waterfall. We were so open and vulnerable, and I enjoyed how comfortable I felt around him.

We saw each other anywhere from two to three times a week, and it felt like love was becoming an open bloom.

I felt a kindred spirit of mentality, physicality, and spirituality grow, yet, the more he shared with me, the more I realized he was human and had his fair share of up and downs.

It’s funny how quickly we can attach ourselves to one person, not knowing on a deeper level if they truly are attached as well.

I am an intuitive person. As a life coach, being aware and using my observations I can prepare myself for the inevitable.

I felt a shift in his presence, my first step was to give him space, I knew he had a lot going on in his life, how he trying get the pieces to fit.

Thinking of everything he shared and the honesty of his words, I had to remind myself that he was ready to be emotionally committed to anything more.

I am stepping back into a place where I can show love, support, and understanding. I’m going to take all pressure off the table, cause he doesn’t need to be concerned with that. He needs to focus on doing what’s best for him.

And if he wishes to pursue us further, he can do it when he is ready… Yet, I will remember that there is a timeframe for me. Life is too short, and I go on living my life to the fullest.

I am Linda J Wolff, life coach and author of Ethereal Glow.

Mindset: From Here There’s Perspective

Step outside of a comfort zone and find a new adventure in the foothills of the mind.

I’ve taken those steps.

Those thousands of footprints in the foothills of time just to come to the same comfortable place.

But, not this time. I’m going to go beyond, that same place. I’m going to forge every step through fear, push myself, fight hard with deeper breathes.

I can see it now, in shaking off the foggy existence of me, peel away a layering, feel a new sense of awareness.

Change this moment, oh the mental view from up here, the transition.

My God, it’s beautiful, how the valley of truth is so empowering and futuristic.

It’s going to be a perspective I will hold myself to, yes, I might slip and fall a few times, but, I’ll never forget what it looks like from here.

I am Linda J Wolff, life coach and author of Ethereal Glow

Mindset: I’ve Been Here Before

Repeat a behavior or bring a pattern of thinking and you will find yourself on the same lone path…

I’ve been here before.

Down the same winding path to that part myself,

The part that refuses to acknowledge change.

Those bends, and rough edges where you fall hard,

get back up and try again.

But, what if?

What if you alter slightly, a subtle change in direction and momentum.

What if?

You question if it was good for you, if they are good for you?

Just a slight transition. Just a new perspective.

Funny, how one path can change quickly.

I am Linda J Wolff, life coach and author of Ethereal Glow.

Mindset: How much Emptiness?

Inside each one of us is light; when we have fallen and want more than emptiness is when we will grasp at the small particles of hope.

Oh, how we subdue what is to conquer if only we could diminish our darkness and bring it into subjection.

And watch it vanish with time and practice.

I am LINDA J WOLFF, life coach and author of ETHEREAL GLOW

Mindset: Honey Bee & Purpose

Do what is necessary, what helps you survive and succeed.

Let’s look at the honey bee. The honey bee has a purpose, to pollinate trees and flowers. And the most sweetest thing of all, it’s delicious honey.

The honey bee doesn’t squabble over drama, over challenges in this world. It’s focused on one purpose.

It’s purpose is to survive and give something to world. Something back to nature itself. Population of species.

This makes me wonder why humanity has lost it’s purpose.

We concentrate too much time on conflicts, on inner turmoil instead of going outward and being focused. Being driven.

Think about it, how much time and energy do you give to the success of your family and success. Can you step away with practice and focus on the well being of your soul and theirs.

I am LINDA J WOLFF, a life coach and author of two self-awareness and healing poetry books…

Dating 101: Listening Ignites Love

True love listens even if the timing is inconvenient.

When we truly love someone, we are open to them. We can feel one another’s pain. What an opportunity to strengthen the bond between the two. Now let’s decipher the micro-poem above that I wrote.

1st line: She was vulnerable, hurt, yet, she stayed opened to love.

By the way, the woman exposed herself to him. She came from a place of love despite how much she was hurting. She allowed her vulnerability to be exposed. Why? Because she is raw and authentic.

Too many times, we shut down or deflect when we hurt. Instead, we should be open; that’s how we can heal and become stronger.

2nd line: And he listened intently with everything he had, cause he knew she needed him.

When she brought her vulnerability, he felt her pain, even though it might of been inconvenient for him, he wanted to send a message of love to her. What greater gift can we give to our partner in life than that of in-depth listening. Then giving suggestions in ways of comfort.

3rd line: And she was grateful.

A man or partner can solidity the strength of a relationship by being understanding to the anguish their person feels. And to be supportive even at the cost of inconvenience. Now that’s love.

Yesterday, my man did that for me

I had, had a challenging day, and I was mentally drained. He asked me how my day was going.

I replied: It’s been quite challenging, but, I’m optimistic it will get better.

His response was. He immediately called me and asked me if I was ok, and wanted me to tell him why. Then he was supportive in listening and offering loving advice.

Do you know how that made me feel? So grateful to have such an understanding man. I thanked him for listening to me. I wanted him to know I appreciated him immensely.

I wanted this to be an example of how we can be there for one another. Sending all my love

I am LINDA J WOLFF, life coach and author of ETHEREAL GLOW – Self-awareness poetry.

Mindset: Reliance of Character

Listening to our inner voice could solve a lot of our restless thoughts.

Trust in the truth of consciousness.

Are you at fault of this? I am. Your spirit murmurs to you don’t do it, but, you go against the whisperings. Only to come back and feel the guilt of not listening.

The heartbreak of choice. See, we can’t blame them. They didn’t force us to choose them to involve our mind, and body into a relationship.

Why do we deflect? Why don’t we take accountability for our thoughts, our actions.

If we had our mental clarity in practice we would discern if those people were right for us. We would have backed away the red flags they were showing us.

It’s when we ignore the small murmurs of the truth of one’s character that we find ourselves at the mercy of self-destructive behavior.

Listen quietly; your spirit knows best what’s good for you and what’s not.

Sending all my love

I am LINDA J WOLFF, life coach and author of ETHEREAL GLOW poetry book

Mindset: Cry and Release

Tears of joy or tears of heartbreak. The difference between.

Tears of Joy. The soul can not help but become full of emotion when the mind, body, and spirit align with well-being.

What a beautiful thing to express that deep-felt joy evoked by completeness through tears. Tears are the recognition. When I have practiced and practice to recognize the triggers, or behavioral patterns that caused me heartache. It’s joy in learning how to process quickly and how the body feels. Fully energized and powerful.

And I have learned to utilize my time and energy in the growth of myself as well as others.

Tears of heartache. I’ve had more than my share. But I’ve learned something from these tears.

I will not revisit them. That’s the lesson.

We often find ourselves tripping over the same behavior patterns and taking them from one relationship to the next. There we are again, crying about the same kind of heartache.

It would help if you didn’t experience this over and over again. For myself, I write and journal my experiences as a reminder to not revisit this pattern.

Writing it down is giving a voice. And a reminder to stop causing that internal war to start all over again. Inner turmoil is damaging to mental clarity and physical energy.

I ask you to please be kind to the mind. And your body will love you for it. Sending all my love to you all.

I am LINDA J WOLFF, life coach and author of ETHEREAL GLOW.